Intermittent reinforcement dating
Once hooked, the N will abuse you up hill and down dale for your weaknesses/problems/faults/slights, and you're left wondering what the hell happened and get confused and long for your early days.You can remember the heady days so you know they were real and it just doesn't make sense what is happening now, and why can't we just get back to they way it was.
Blunt scissors Velouria, the equivalent of beating on their chest going 'Why can't you see how your behaviour upsets me and causes you problems in your interactions with other people?From someone who doesn't even kill slugs and snails (though I make an exception for cockroaches) Are from USA??? We Aussies often feel humour has to spelled out to the Yanks so I've done that.The rest of the post was a serious attempt to provide something of value to fellow forum members but if you can't overlook your personal assessment of what is approriate you may have missed that.As far as I could see I had done nothing different but something had pushed his buttons,it was very perplexing and kept me hooked for a very long time. One thing I still have a problem with is the idea that their behaviour is unconscious or instinctive.As far as I could see I had done nothing different but something had pushed his buttons,it was very perplexing and kept me hooked for a very long time. My 2c worth it the behaviour is unconscious to the degree that N's lack the insight and empathy to draw back from a particular behaviour as potentially damaging to the relationship. I imoagine a paranoid is conscious to the voices in his head but unconscious to that is not normal.